Saturday, October 8, 2011

Always second fiddle...

So I'm reading my facebook posts last night and a dear friend posted about her son favoring her husband. Another friend posted about the woes of single parenting (and I have to say, NOW I understand why people stay together for the sake of the children--it's about not KILLING them!)and not being appreciated for all that she does. It brought me back to a day when I felt so loved--those days are rare--when everything seemed to really go well in our home. No one fought about what color bowl they wanted at breakfast. No one pushed a sibling out of THEIR chair. No one whined about the food selection. everyone patiently waited for me to get breakfast ready and they spoke NICELY to me (and to each other)about school, their dreams, whatever came to mind. This day is so vivid, because it only happened once. ONE TIME in SEVEN years (or if we are counting from the time I had three, one time in FOUR years. Still depressing, no?) we had a nice morning that wasn't filled with yelling, screaming and whining. Just before we needed to leave for school, my youngest ran to me and gave me a huge huge hug coupled with a sweet sigh. "Oh, Mommy," she cooed. "I just love Daddy best!"

7 comments:

  1. Oh, Nika....they will probably do it when they get older!! I know we did not appreciate my mother as much as we should when we were younger!

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  2. I am so proud of your blog ... but remember how you felt about me until u were hmmm 30?!!!l lol love you!

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  3. My MOMMY'S reading?! SO GREAT! Please forgive anything you don't like and don't forget to "join!" Martha, I STILL apologize to my mom regularly for things my kids do that i KNOW I must have done!

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  4. We all go through those trials in our lives. My own kids have had ups and downs with who they like better. Over the years, my daughter now 13, went from being a "daddys girl" until she was 6, liked me until about 9, and now is back to being daddys angel. My boys however, hung on to being a mamas boy until about 8, and now arr wanting dad more.
    Keep your head held high, kids go through stages. And although the words may hurt from time to time they love you for all the things you do.

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  5. I commented through email, but it didn't post, sothank you again for your words of encouragement!

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  6. My daughter who is 40ish called one day crying...Mom I'm so sorry for all I put you through...! Why?! She has a teen age daughter!!!

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  7. So funny--and so true! I'm apologizing almost daily as it is, and my oldest is SEVEN. I don't even KNOW what I am going to do when he (and his dramatic and exhausting sisters) is a teenager! There's not enough wine on the PLANET for that!

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